Don't confuse access with permission

There is a moment very early on in every infants life where the child becomes completely aware of what he/she wants.  They will stretch, scratch, climb and pull in order to attain that what they can see.  You Claudia,  being a good parent, sibling or caretaker will often move the things that are potentially dangerous or that could break or hurt them our of their reach.  Some things you may keep locked.  Other things you put on an elevated shelf.  As this infant matures and grows we realize that it is futile to keep everything out of their grasp so we now provide instruction on what to touch and what not to touch.   In the event that words alone don't create consistent adherence, often times a light slap on the child's hand serves as an accompanying stern reminder.

Now fast forward a number of years and us infants are now a bit older.  We now have tremendous access to things and persons, both good and bad. Like Adam and Eve, we are often in a garden filled with God's blessings and provisions yet we still occasionally long for that which we should not grasp.  We too find ourselves blaming others for our blunders or selfishness with phrases such as  "If you didn't want me to touch it, take it or eat it... then you shouldn't have put it where I could see it.

It's true; your position, your  looks, your charisma, your bank acct, your peers, your opportunities, your address, your degrees, your wit... ALL ...may provide you with ACCESS to a variety of things or people that others may not have and you at one time could never reach.  However, a wise man knows which doors to unlock and better yet which doors to keep closed.  Which fruit to enjoy and which fruit to ignore.

Access is not synonymous with Permission.  When in doubt, do without